What Is True Love?

I can picture the day.
a limo pulling up to take him and me 
white clusters of flowers on the pews,
tears in my eyes, in lavender chiffon....

Oops. That's an important part, huh?

L O V E

It's a commonly thrown around four-letter word.
"I love him"
or
"I love her."

What Is Real Love?
And is there a difference between that and the
heart-pounding adrenaline rush you feel when u see...?
  That hot guy playing basketball at the gym...
the cute girl who makes eye contact as she passes by...

There are a few things love isn't.

Love Isn't A Feeling.
Although real love is often accompanied by strong feelings,
love does not equate with the sense of floating on clouds.
Unlike the type of love that movies, television,
and songs portray, people in love don't
always feel ooey gooey around each other.

A relationship wouldn't last long on emotions.
In fact, knowledge is the basis
of a healthy relationship.

Knowing about the other person is key.
we used to and sometimes still do
"Fall In love"
with girl/guy that we have never had a conversation with,
whether it be a movie star in the latest romantic
drama or the girl sitting behind you in a class.
we would know his/her name and face,
and that was the extent of our knowledge.
If we were to start a relationship with them,
who knows where that would lead us!

Knowing about the person's personality and
character are so important.
One good test is to list the qualities that attract
us to that guy or girl.
If the list is long, we know a lot
about them and like those things.
If the list is short,
we either don't know a lot about them or
we know a lot but aren't attracted to his or her personality.

Another important factor in a
relationship is common life goals.

If the relationship is going to be long term,
we ought to be going in the same
general direction as the other person.
If his dream is to travel as an international
businessman and she wants to be a realtor in a single location,
conflict could arise.
If she wants to live in the
countryside with nature and he likes the hustle
and bustle of a big city,
there are potentially serious problems
with the direction of the couple's lives.

Love is a choice. It's a commitment.

Although feelings will accompany love, and although
sex will be a part of marriage, a lasting,
healthy relationship cannot be based on these things.

TRUE LOVE 101%
What does it take to be that significant other?

Infactuation